Sally ( Present; 258 Words) How do you negotiate the feeling of being uncomfortable?

Sally ( Present; 258 Words)
How do you negotiate the feeling of being uncomfortable?

Conflict makes me uncomfortable, even though I understand that it is the source for change. I mentally accept the premise that ideas and change come from someone being uncomfortable with the status quo. It leads one to an investigation of what is understood and then branches into that magic moment of an epiphany. That being said, being uncomfortable is that raw, cold emotion; before the thought process kicks in, before one can side-step the feelings and focus on what is expected.

Society has many rules that we are taught consciously and unconsciously. These rules are specifically in place to organize communities into groups so that people know what to expect and limit one’s source of “uncomfortableness.” That being said, there are societal norms that must be changed, and the only way to do that is to make one uncomfortable so that an analysis of the source of the uncomfortable feeling may be completed.

I tend to navigate from being uncomfortable to anger, disbelief and then reach an understanding—or a calm spot—before I can proceed. This brings to mind a Joni Mitchell song with the lyrics of “Laughing and crying—you know it’s the same release.”

There is also a quote from Martin Buber that fits this thought process, “There are three principles in a person's being and life, the principle of thought, the principle of speech, and the principle of action. The origin of all conflict between me and others is that I do not say what I mean and I don't do what I say.”