negotiate an uncomfortable feeling -333 words

Present in class Monday June 16th 08
Negotiate the feeling of being uncomfortable?

One of the most important skills anyone can hold in every day life is the ability to negotiate. For each person negotiation differs an as a child it could be allowance money, as a sibling it could be a fight to watch TV etc. Of course moderators and guidance people play an important role in forming the self esteem of the 2 people doing the negotiating, hence this is so complicated.

This takes a whole different perspective for me, because of my origin of birth, my gender, and also upbringing. I feel that societal norms quite often dictate how I react as well. That said and reflecting back I feel I have had to negotiate myself twice as hard to get what I wanted. And I have most often found myself in the fighting instinct rather that the flight or run away place.

As a child I have known to get a lot of attention for saying what I think. I guess they thought I was “cute” so that gave me the courage to go on. But as a young adult I got in trouble a lot, for asking defying questions confront my dad, ask him why can my brother do it and why can I not? I remember very clearly not fearing the consequence, I am not sure if that might have been the most intelligent way to handle things in all situations?

Sad but true now a days life’s challenges sometimes forces me to have pity parties! I have been fleeing the scene and I need to get my passion back, and keep my focus get educated and give it back.

Finally I feel that I am responsible and have an obligation I really am not afraid to speak my mind, but I want to do it to make a positive change in the person who in turn affects his or her immediate family and it turn the society now and eventually the future generations.