It is inevitable to run into situations that make one uncomfortable and I am no exception to this by any means. However, in thinking about the ways other than the basic flee or fight methods, I tend to be a bit blunter than I consciously would think. In slightly uncomfortable situations, I state my feelings in the situation, because I think it is hard to conceal the feeling of being uncomfortable. Even if I were to say nothing, it would be obvious from my nonverbal posture, so instead of leaving it up there for interpretation, I would jump on the opportunity to explain it from my prospective. In addition, explaining and talking about what it is that makes me uncomfortable tends to elevate the level of discomfort.
I like to believe that I always use my moral, and what I believe is right and wrong, however, society has succeeded instilling us to be careful. Just a like a little child touching hot object for the first time, the consequences of breaking the norms is real and consequential. However, this line of thinking is not applicable to every culture. What is considered respectful in one culture could be a total dishonor in another. So I literally, as many multicultural folks, have to maintain two different and at times apposing concepts of dealing with situations that make me uncomfortable. Some of the coping methods in my arsenal, put the situation in a question format, express it as feeling, assertively state the situation or if extreme jump right to anger and defensive mode.
Rashka
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Great blog...I can truly understand you feelings about being uncomfortable. I would however like to ask you this, does our ability to overcome uncomfortable situations help prepare us for situations that are unforeseen and maybe even difficult to handle? Why or Why not?
I personally think that it helps, but does not grantee a successful execution of negotiating another incident. There is something inherently unique about every situation. In addition, other factors, i.e. mood, timing, previous encounters, of either party could have significant effect on the out come.
That is not to say one does not improve his/her odds of future success in dealing with uncomfortable matters. There is something to be learned from each opportunity.
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